Setting a Standard – Endurance

A Mistress / Goddess worthy of Her title has need to endure many things while in the company of Her adoring subjects.

For example, standing and walking in very, very high heeled boots or shoes for any length of time is far from comfortable, yet She endures the discomfort for the image expected of Her.  Enduring a corset is also a sacrifice, as well as wearing leather or stockings in the warmer months.  She can endure unsavory sights, sounds and smells in the course of a session, particularly in regards to clinical or adult infantilism fantasies.  She must endure tedium at times, if a submissive’s desires do not stimulate or challenge Her.  She will endure Her own painful experiences in the course of dispensing yours, such as the stinging in Her palm  during a barehanded spanking or an accidental splash of hot wax obviously not meant for Her.  Her endurance must and always will outlive yours if She is to effectively mold you into Her well-trained and pliable little puppy!

Setting a Standard – Generosity

In the case of a professional Dominatrix who expects a generous tribute for Her valuable time and attention, you might doubt generosity would be one of Her many fine attributes.  But a good Mistress is generous, nearly to a fault.  She is generous with Her time.  During a training session, She may observe an exacting time schedule, but a conscientious and caring Domina will spend periods with you before and after Your actual session to chat, to reassure, to answer questions or simply to wind down.  She is also generous with Her knowledge.  By imparting Her experience, it should help you to understand, accept and embrace your fantasies.  She should be generous with the equipment and costuming She has, in incorporating special devices or exotic apparel into your session if the circumstances call for it.

There are certainly greedy women out there who pose as Dominas only for the profit incentive.  They may have looks, fetish clothes, and a lust for cash, but that’s all!  A true Goddess, on the other hand, whether or not She is professional, takes financial considerations in stride and concentrates on the more important and positive aspects of a Dominant/submissive rendezvous.  Her personal generosity plays a very important part in establishing a special relationship.

Setting a Standard – Dexterity

Skillful dominant fantasy fulfillment requires of the Mistress both mental and physical dexterity.  It is a “hands on” process requiring nimble (and lovely) fingers to buckle, zip, lace, and knot.  Good hand-eye coordination is necessary to hit the mark with whip, crop, cane or paddle.   A gracious Dominatrix shows remarkable scope in Her emotions, Her ability to understand, sympathize, console, and often counsel as well as the ease with She can bowl you over by voicing a single word.  She does not whip Her way into a corner.  She always has options and alternatives, both psychological and tactile to achieve Her goal and to fulfill Her passion for power!

Setting a Standard – Intuition

Intuition – One of the foremost attributes of a competent Dominatrix is Her innate ability to predict and perceive your deepest desires.  Submissives often are “hard” put to express openly exactly what they want, need or feel.  A good Mistress must in essence be part mind reader.  She must take Her cues from whatever information She extracts during preliminary correspondence and communication with Her potential plaything, in order to forecast your specific interests (as they pertain to Her interests), anticipate your limits and bring to the surface your hidden emotions.  She may not possess sixth sense or a crystal ball.  Her intuition is most certainly a gift from the Goddess above.  It is also an acquired skill, honed from practice and experience, to make your session with Her so incredibly rewarding and sexually fulfilling.  I have been often told by many of my subjects that they feel more comfortable expressing themselves; who they are, how they feel, and what they crave sexually, with Me than they ever have with their closest friend or their own wife.

Setting a Standard



Setting a Standard

Contrary to popular opinion there is no established stereotype for a Dominatrix, except perhaps Her preference for a black wardrobe.  She can be tall or short, She can be slim or… not so slim.  Her skin can be dark or light.  Her age can vary.  She can be Catholic, Jew, Protestant, Agnostic, Pagan, Islamic, or Hindu.  She may even worship “The Goddess.”  She can prefer men, women, or both to satiate Her sexual appetite which may be either finicky or ravenous.  Dominant Women comprise a rainbow of personalities, anatomies, interests, and standards.  As far as I am concerned, there are definite positive physical and psychological traits associated with being an accomplished Dominatrix.  Over the next few weeks or so My messages will be dealing with some of what I feel these are.  For example, intellect, intuition, dexterity, generosity, endurance, patience, will and compassion.  For today I would like to express some of my thoughts in regards to the intellectual aspects of a beautiful Seductress such as Myself.

Handcuffs, a cat o’ nine tails and high, kinky boots are all part of the B&D gear a Mistress keeps at hand.  But the most important piece of equipment She can possess is Her own intellect.  A good memory is required to remember the subtle idiosyncrasies of past sessions.  A creative imagination is par for the course in keeping repeat fantasy encounters fresh and exciting. An accumulation of general knowledge is favorable so that She may converse intelligently with those obviously educated, upscale submissives who seek Her out.  Intellect is the core of a Domina’s confidence, self-reliance and overall appeal.  She need not be an Einstein clone, certainly, but a high IQ will stand her in better stead than high heels ever could.


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