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Posted by Goddess Marquesa August 28, 2012
krystalclearlyownsyouTO WHIP, OR NOT TO WHIP?
WHEN SHOULD I MAKE you SCREAM?
SHOULD I MAKE you SCREAM?
SHOULD I MAKE you BEG FOR MERCY?
TO BDSM OR NOT TO BDSM?
Hello, My actual or possible PAIN-IS-PLEASURE-SEEKER:
*  Here’s one of the many things I’ve learned from My years of being a lifestyle Domina
and ProDomme:
“LIKE CHEFS, DOMMES HAVE MANY DIFFERENT INGREDIENTS TO CHOOSE FROM AND MANY DIFFERING PALATES TO DEAL WITH.”
BDSM is the group of ingredients I’m gonna talk about right now.
*  BDSM covers many activities and a wide range of levels for each one.
+  Getting hit with the Domina’s hand and/or some object She wickedly wields expertly.
+  Having Her restrain your body or some body part(s) in some ways that drive you wild and right
where She wants you….. compelled and compliant.
+  you succumbing, surrendering, and submitting to the dauntingly decadent Dominatrix’s will because She’s
sensuously stimulating your senses by Her arousing application of heat, cold, electricity, etc.
+  The list of BDSM’s lascivious lures goes on and on.
*  Here are some of the questions I’ve often had to answer about engaging in BDSM with someone:
Is it a good idea to do BDSM with this individual?
Which BDSM activity/activities should I carry out with this person?
How much of some specific BDSM aspects should I do with this person?
The answers to these and other questions are inescapably connected to these two statements-
#1.  WHO I AM AND WHAT DO I REALLY WANT?
#2.  WHO IS THIS INDIVIDUAL AND WHAT DO THEY TRULY DESIRE.
To expand upon a well-known proverb, “Be careful what you wish, ask, or pray for because you may get it or have it
done to you or you may have to do it”.
Fantasizing about having an alluring  Woman BLINDFOLD you, tie you down, and whip you until you plead for mercy is one thing.
Experiencing any or all of these [as well as any other B&Dand S&M pleasures] will most likely be very different in who knows how many ways from the fantasies you, who is reading My words has created about being blindfolding, shackling, and My paddling you black and blue–or
maybe red or pink is your color scheme.  🙂
IMO  anyone worthy of such titles as Mistress, Goddess, etc will do Her best to promote each potential plaything’s
recognizing and handling the differences between what’s been imagined about BDSM and what the reality of BDSM can
or will be.
NOTE:  ANYONE WHO DOES NOT, CANNOT, OR REFUSES TO SEPARATE THEIR BDSM FANTASIES FROM REAL BDSM EXPERIENCE IS NOT A
GOOD FIT FOR ME.
 “ONE MAN’S MEAT IS ANOTHER MAN’S POISON.”  Yes, this saying is true regarding two different submissives and one
particular BDSM fetish.
And it can also be true for one specific subbie and a particular fetish done at different times or administered in differing ways or carried out with various intensities.
On a scale from zero to ten, a sub’s desire to be spanked could be a ten on one day and on another day it could be a four.
That subbie may have a high pain threshold for being paddled on their butt:  But they may have a medium threshold for pain if they’re being spanked on their legs.
I haven’t found any ONE-SIZE-FITS-ALL way of doing things that works for Me when it comes to getting BDSM’s nuts-and-bolts to successfully work out for Me and those I choose to have fun with.
Developing and employing a detective’s skill set can certainly come in handy for a Dominatrix.
Asking the right questions, focusing on the subs answers, paying attention to their posture, body language, any hesitancy,
nervousness, and so on can be really helpful.
In short, I firmly believe the following is an inescapable truth:
“BEING AN IRRESISTIBLE DOMME OR A DESIRABLE sub IS LIKE BEING A FINE DANCE PARTNER:  YOU/you MUST LEARN ABOUT AND
MESH WELL WITH Y/your PARTNER’S MOVES, MOODS, AND MORE.”
Here are some of My  recordings introducing you to and/or enthralling you with some of BDSM’s mind/blowing myriads of delights:
AROUSING SOUNDS (audio)
HOT! WAX HEXING YOU (audio)
LEADING YOU ON (video)
WONDERIFIC PLEASURES AND PAIN (video)
**  All thoughtful comments, suggestions, and questions about this thrilling topic are encouraged.
Mistress Marquesa